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Friday, March 12, 2010

The need to be selfish

I was raised with the words "Don't be selfish!". I spent most of my life doing for others because of this. I have made a lot of friends, good friends, but I also now realize that I lost out on a lot due to this rule.

The old saying that you can't love others until you love yourself has a lot of truth to it. If you are continually giving to others with little or no thought to yourself, then you end up telling your mind that you are not worth as much as everyone else. This can begin a process, which it did with me, in which your self-esteem drops so low that you develope problems with relationships as well as within yourself. Now, you are at the point where you are helping others at the detriment of yourself.

All of this is only to say that, while you are helping others, take a bit of time once in a while to help yourself; treat yourself to something you enjoy; go somewhere you have wanted to go; see someone you have wanted to visit; in other words, have some fun and put yourself first at times.

As always, I look forward to your comments, Scott

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